The Best Mindset to Have For a Perfect Elopement Experience
There are many things to consider when planning an adventure elopement. Where to get married, what time of year, what dress to buy or color suit to wear, etc. These are indisputably important components of any elopement, but among all the tips, tricks, or resources I could share from my years as a professional elopement photographer there is one piece of advice that stands apart as the single most important ingredient to having the most beautiful wedding experience possible. Your mindset. So, let’s look at some practical steps and simple perspectives which, quite literally, make a world of difference.
“There are two things you should never worry about in life. Things you can’t change, and things you can.”
Embrace Spontaneity
The reality is that things happen. Life is not a perfectly scripted journey with no deviations. It’s all an adventure. But isn’t that what makes it beautifully exciting? So, what do you do if a location doesn’t work out? If less than ideal weather influences your plans? The best thing you can do is simply to laugh and smile through everything. Let’s take a moment to highlight a critical distinction as well. Not going as planned is not the same as going wrong or failing. Departing from an original plan is not synonymous with less enjoyable. In fact, unexpected turn of events or surprises give character to an experience and the best stories are often born when something didn’t go as planned. As the above quote suggests, if you can change it then don’t worry. And reciprocally, there’s no reason to expend energy in worry if there’s nothing you can do to change it anyway. Just do the best you can, and the rest will be what it will be. You get to marry your partner and that is what’s most important.
Visualization
It’s not always easy to predict what may happen, but at whatever capacity you’re able, consider what unexpected things may take place. Don’t purposefully worry, but mentally and emotionally prep yourself for different events that may occur. Then if something should stray from the original plan you aren’t caught by surprise and have something to fall back on.
“Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so”
Sometimes it is admittedly difficult to remember, but we have the ability to assign meaning to things. Not the other way around. We control our emotions over the experience rather than our emotions controlling us. The rainstorm that came during the ceremony can go from “oh no this is awful” to the age-old cliché quote about “life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s learning to dance in the rain”. The choice is yours.
Feeling Over Everything
How you feel throughout, not just the day itself but, your entire wedding experience is more important than the flower arrangements or what the weather did. You won’t remember all the details, everything that was said, or done but you will always remember the way you felt. Because you are in control of assigning meaning, things are what you make them to be. What is the story you want to remember of your day? This is your greatest means in creating the wedding you’ve always dreamt of. Bring that mindset to the doorstep of your experience. This is how to live, not only the most elated wedding day, but the greatest life.
Hey, I’m Warren and this is my why behind everything I do!
I believe this is where it all starts and is at the heart of everything, so let me tell you. I have a soft spot for sentimentality and I think love is awesome. I’m so grateful that I discovered photography early in life because I’ve been able to document my own journey in a creative fashion. For that reason, I have a strong passion for giving that same experience to others and take great pride in getting the responsibility of documenting their stories. Each picture has a story or feeling behind it and I love to capture that novelty. Arresting those moments in time allows us to remember and feel more intensely. I know how much I value that and enjoy passing that along to others through photography. I would love to be a part of telling your story.